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►► Confused about what to text him? Just copy & paste these 9 FREE texts →▼Don’t Miss Out! Subscribe to my YouTube channel now.I post new dating advice for women every Sunday.▼Attraction is something that can be learned; it's not something set in stone.There's a myth that we're either attractive or we're not - or that someone can either be attracted to us or not.In reality, I've found that life's not so simple. It's not that black and white.Have you ever become attracted to someone who wasn't your type?That's because attraction has a formula. There's a science to it, which is what I want to go through with you today.
I want you to come to believe that attraction is possible to influence.You can have someone who is constantly attractive in one environment, and you can put them in another environment and they're not.Have you ever gone out and felt that you were getting so much attention one night, but the next you didn't get any?This didn't happen because you looked so different on each of the two nights. There are things you can do to change and improve your appearance of course, but there are other factors at play.Here is the formula you need to know for creating deep and lasting attraction.1) Visual ChemistryPeople think this is just about how you look - and it's not true. It's about how you're perceived.It's about how you walk, talk, move, what your body language conveys - and there's a lot we can do in each of these to influence how attractive we are perceived to be.2) Perceived ChallengeThis is what people are really talking about when they talk about the idea of 'playing hard to get'.Men want to feel that they are earning you every step of the way. They want to feel that you're attainable, but there are steps they have to go through to earn your attraction.3) Perceived ValuePerceived value is what you have about you that is really worth something. This might be to do with personality traits that you have, the lifestyle you have - something that makes a guy think to himself, 'this woman has value to add to my life'.4) ConnectionConnection is when the two of you truly feel like you relate.
This comes mostly from understanding.-'Do I feel understood by this person? And do I understand them?' -'Do our beliefs, ideas and ways of thinking relate?'
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SummaryMost dating books tell you what NOT to do. Here's a book dedicated to telling you what you CAN do.In his book, Get the Guy, Matthew Hussey—relationship expert, matchmaker, and star of the reality show Ready for Love—reveals the secrets of the male mind and the fundamentals of dating and mating for a proven, revolutionary approach to help women to find lasting love.Matthew Hussey has coached thousands of high-powered CEOs, showing them how to develop confidence and build relationships that translate into professional success.
Many of Matthew’s male clients pressed him for advice on how to apply his winning strategies not to just get the job, but how to get the girl. As his reputation grew, Hussey was approached by more and more women, eager to hear what he had learned about the male perspective on love and romance.From landing a first date to establishing emotional intimacy, playful flirtation to red-hot bedroom tips, Matthew’s insightfulness, irreverence, and warmth makes Get the Guy: Learn Secrets of the Male Mind to Find the Man You Want and the Love You Deserve a one-of-a-kind relationship guide and the handbook for every woman who wants to get the guy she’s been waiting for. Publisher IntroductionLove is hard.You love someone who doesn’t love you back. You fall out of love with a guy you thought you’d love forever.
Someone you love disappoints you. Or he leaves you. You fall for someone, hard, then never hear from him again. You’ve been burned, shut out, and heartbroken.Even at the best of times, love can be traumatizing, like being punched in the gut. But isn’t it amazing that although love sucks, we still want it in our lives? We patch up our hearts and go forth, hoping to find our real true love. Why risk it all again?
Because nothing feels as good as being in love. There is nothing better than lying in bed on a Sunday morning with someone who drives you wild. Nothing like the sound of your beloved’s voice when he simply says, Hello. There is no business opportunity, no promotion, no holiday, no amount of money that makes our hearts swell so.Whatever your experiences with guys have been in the past, I know the odds are you will go out and try to find love again. This time, though, I’d like you to go back out with the tools and techniques that will help guarantee success in finding the man of your dreams.So often I hear, where are all the good men? They’re all around you!
Matthew Hussey Married
The problem is that you’re not meeting them, simply because you haven’t given yourself the opportunity to meet them. I’m not talking about meeting every player who’s wagging his tongue at you from across the bar, but someone up to your standards, who’s worth your time and attention.Finding a guy isn’t just about finding a guy. It’s about living a life that engages you at every level and by extension creates opportunities for you to connect with many people. Some may well be guys you date, and one may be the man of your dreams. The real benefit to the techniques I teach is that you will raise the level at which you live your life. Women who live passionate lives are inherently sexy and attractive.What I teach in this book is how you can be proactive in your love life without seeming desperate or easy, and how you can choose the man you want to meet but still get him to do the chasing.
Most of all, I’ll show you how to do this naturally, so that you never have to play games again.When I was just starting to notice girls, I used to wonder how other guys always seemed to be able to get the girl they wanted, while I somehow always ended up with whoever would have me. It drove me mad.Even at a young age, I knew that there were rules of attraction that eluded me. The frustration I felt about my own lack of prowess spurred me to teach myself how to become acquainted with the girls to whom I was attracted, how to talk to them, how to attract them, and how to win them.Over the years, I became more confident and successful.
I believed I had tapped into something I could share with others, and I started to coach other guys on how to do the same for themselves. My coaching business grew quickly, and over the course of a few years, I worked with more than ten thousand guys on how to attract women. By trying to overcome my own limitations I wound up developing a widespread reputation throughout the United Kingdom for helping guys with their love lives. I was featured in a major documentary and dubbed in the press as a real-life Hitch, after the 2005 romantic comedy starring Will Smith as a professional date doctor.One day I was giving a talk to a room full of three hundred guys, and to break the ice I asked, So, who here wants to get laid?
There wasn’t a single woman in the room. There was no reason for them to be anything but honest. You would think they would all raise their hands. What guy doesn’t want to get laid, right? But only 60 percent of them raised their hands. Then I asked, Who here wants to find a great relationship?
And do you know what happened? Every single hand in the room went up.It turns out that men want what women want: a lasting, meaningful relationship.I couldn’t stop thinking about that show of hands. If women knew this about men, I thought, it might make them feel more optimistic about finding true love.At first, the thought of coaching women seemed daunting.
How could I possibly understand a woman’s point of view? Why would anyone listen to me? How could I possibly help? But then the idea struck me that I knew what guys were thinking. I had spent years learning about what makes guys tick and what they were looking for.
What if I took all of that acquired intelligence and shared it with women so they could use it to find love? I could help them get noticed, get dates, and get treated with respect. Perhaps I could even help them to get the proposal of marriage so many of my female friends thought was out of reach.I created some basic and practical steps for women to follow and then hosted a small gathering for the women in my life. At this meeting, I distilled and divulged what I’d learned about the way men think and how women could use this to their advantage.
We worked on elegant techniques the women could use to influence men without ever looking as if they were doing anything. I offered subtle ways in which they could be proactive in their love lives, ways that would slip completely under a guy’s radar, so that they could choose the guy they wanted and orchestrate his attraction.The key to making it all work is striking the perfect balance between being proactive and being high value. (There’s plenty in this book on the subject of being a high-value woman. More about that later.)I had no idea how this would all go over, but my friends were floored. They’d never heard these things before, certainly never from a guy. In some ways, I felt as if I was betraying my own sex by coming over to fight for the other side, but I really wanted to bring some assistance to my female friends.
Even though I believed every word of what I told these women, what happened next was crazy.Within the next week my single friends began getting dates with men who appealed to them. Those in relationships started saying their boyfriends were treating them with more respect, admiration, and attraction. Men who had never said, I love you started saying it for the first time; one even proposed, though previously he had said he never would. Three months later, the women who’d been single were in relationships with guys they adored.Word spread. Women I didn’t know started calling me, asking for advice. E-mails flooded my inbox from women with dating and relationship questions.
I began conducting private coaching sessions. Every week, I’d receive phone calls at all hours of the night from women in far-flung time zones.This was the beginning of what would be a years-long journey of working with fifty thousand women in Get the Guy events, and with millions online, to help them find love. Through Get the Guy, I now host everything from weekend events aimed at transforming women’s love lives to transformative five-day retreats held all over the world. The contents of this book are the result of what I have been thinking about, teaching, and refining over the past four years.During the Get the Guy weekend course, I give women the A to Z on everything they need to know, from where to meet the right guys and how to attract them, to how to make the guy they’ve chosen desire a relationship that will last a lifetime. I’ve utilized thousands of real-life case studies to road test every technique and theory. My mission is to share every piece of secret information about men that I have been privy to in order to transform women’s love lives.The evening of the first day of the event, I send these women out into the world with a simple mission to practice everything they’d learned that day. They talk, flirt, and have fun in ways they’d never experienced.
The next morning they return to the seminar and recount their stories. Women who haven’t had a date in years tell of how they already have several dates set up for the next week. It is my hope that you will do the same after reading this book.Get the Guy is meant to be a double entendre. It will help you land a mate, if that’s what you desire, but it will also help you get the guy—to understand how men think, what they really want, how they view women, relationships, sex, and commitment.
Stephen Hussey Matthew Hussey
However, even though I reveal a lot of secrets about the male mind, this book isn’t about guys, it’s about you. There’s nothing I say here that isn’t designed to help you. Some of it might strike you as a little blunt, but were I writing a book for men I would be just as direct about what they should be doing to find women, and believe me, the book would be much longer. While I can’t help you by telling you what’s wrong with men, I can help by telling you how to utilize men’s needs and desires to find the one worthy of your love. Think of me as your personal insider, the guy in your corner.I know there is a lot of information out there about how to improve your love life.
There’s the makeover crowd, who focus on fixing your appearance to the exclusion of your behavior, and the therapy crowd, who delve into your deepest psychological and emotional barriers to help you overcome obstacles. These are the shallow and deep ends of the spectrum and may well have value. But what you really need to know are the logistics necessary to go about finding, meeting, and getting the guy, and then what to do with him once you’ve got him.With a proper model, you will be successful. No matter who you are, what you look like, what you do for work, whether you’ve been married before, whether you have kids, whether you’re shy or outgoing, tall or short, blond or redhead, you can have the kind of love life you desire. It has nothing to do with luck or fate or Cupid showing up with bow and arrow. Your love life is not determined by romantic notions and magical thinking, but rather by a set of conditions that everyone and anyone can create.My model is based on three basic ideas:1.
Learning simple, new behaviors that allow you to meet more guys and choose those you like2. Understanding how men think and what they want3. Creating a high-value lifestyle that will draw men to you and satisfy you with or without your guyThe book is organized by techniques for finding the guy, getting the guy, and keeping the guy.Finding the Guy will teach you how to meet more men, get them to approach you, and engage in conversation that will tell you within minutes whether you want to get to know a guy better. This part of the book focuses primarily on how to increase your odds of meeting the right guy. While some of it may seem daunting, it’s the millimeter shifts in behavior that transform our lives and love lives.Getting the Guy deals with methods for creating attraction and deepening your connection to find out if this is a guy you want in your life.Finally, Keeping the Guy focuses on the work that we all have to do when we finally find the love of our life. You will learn that the theories that apply in the beginning are also relevant at the end. The practices you develop and hold dear will help you to enjoy the love life you’ve been hoping for.One last note: As you go through the book you’ll see sidebars that contain links to online videos designed to help you visualize the techniques in the book.
If you don’t have online access, or you are not inclined to move off the page, the book stands on its own.However, I wanted to overdeliver for you, so I have taken strategic snippets from my live seminars—which women fly from all over the world to attend—and put them online. In these videos, I speak directly to you with the hope that your reading experience is enhanced, and you get the most from this book.If you’d like to get started with these videos immediately, go to www.gettheguybook.com/members and enter the code: gtgbook. And here is my promise to you: if you read this book, watch the videos, and truly put the advice into practice, you will meet more guys, your love life will improve, and ultimately so will your life.
So let’s get started!PART ONEFind the Guy 1 Put the Odds in Your FavorHow many guys do you meet in an average week?And when I say meet, I refer to a genuine social interaction, where you engage with a man, eye contact and all, for anywhere from five minutes of chatting to a full two-hour conversation. But it has to be a conversation, not just collecting your mail from the postman (unless of course he’s new and you turn him into a social connection).If your answer is none, or even one, how long do you think it’s going to take you to meet the guy?
I’m going to give you the benefit of the doubt: let’s say you meet one new man every week. How long will it take to meet Mr. Right if you are meeting only one new man in an average week?
I’m not a mathematician, but the odds are pretty long. What makes them even longer is that these interactions are probably happening by chance, and certainly not because they are men you have selected yourself.This isn’t the case for only you. If I asked the same question of a male reader, the number would be just as small. Both sexes are guilty of leaving their love lives to chance.
Blame it on the fairy tales we’re read as kids, blame it on Hollywood, but the fact remains that we’ve come to believe that true love is the product of fate. We’ve all been led to believe that someday it will just happen, that one day fate will drop the person of our dreams right next to us while we’re standing at a stoplight. The fate-will-bring-me-love approach lacks urgency, which leads to lack of action. You assume that when the time is right the right guy will come along, and in the meantime you focus on your work, your ambitions, your family, your friends, your hobbies. That’s not to say that these are not all highly fulfilling aspects of your life in their own right, but I want to help you understand how within these essential parts of your life are opportunities to find the man of your dreams. When people put aside their love life to focus on these other areas, years pass, and one day the lack of urgency turns into panic.
We become frantic as we realize that not only is nothing happening in our love life, but we are at a loss as to how to make it happen, which of course leads to more panic, creating a loop of frustration, at best, or worse, hopelessness. You may be reading this book because you keep asking yourself (and perhaps your sisters, girlfriends, and coworkers), Where are all the good men to be found? If you’re gradually coming to the realization that fate isn’t cooperating, you might be on the verge of seeing that you’re going to have to be proactive. You are going to have to go out and find him.And how do you find him?It’s a very simple principle:To meet more men you have to, er, meet more men! Waiting or CreatingA word of encouragement before you set out to meet the man of your dreams: Life is full of people who wait. They wait for the right moment to approach someone, or wait for someone to approach them first.
They wait for someone to show enough interest that they don’t risk being rejected, they wait to be invited, and they wait to make a move. They wait to feel confident before taking action. Wait, wait, wait, for everything.Waiters imagine they are playing it safe, but more often than not, only two things come to those who wait: the wrong thing or no-thing.Ask yourself: Right now, at this very moment, am I waiting or am I creating?
Am I taking the positive steps which will give me results in my love life? (If your answer is no, take heart; simply by reading this book you are already taking action, seeking the knowledge that will enable you to make the changes necessary to make rapid progress.)There’s an added benefit to taking your life into your own hands: when you know you are doing everything in your power to improve your situation, you can be content even if the results aren’t immediate. The knowledge that you are moving forward, improving, and developing in a significant way is what makes humans happy.Wherever you feel you are right now, you still have a choice: you can wait or you can create.There is only one way to wait: just do nothing.
But there are thousands of ways to create, so the opportunities are endless. START CREATING NOWI’ve produced a special video to help you start creating.Go to www.gettheguybook.com/createAccess code: gtgbook Throwing the Net WideI know your goal is not to meet as many men as possible, but to meet your man, the one who is going to add more meaning to your life. Setting aside for a moment the logic that you can’t meet your man if you don’t meet any men, there is another reason to throw the net wide.Let’s say that you meet only one man in three years.
You might think he is fine—or, even better, perfect for you. But since you have nothing to compare him with, you risk settling for less than you deserve. No one is perceptive enough to call it correctly with only one choice.As much as you might love to act like a marksman, picking out a single target, taking aim, and shooting, you can’t just pick your ideal man out of the crowd with Cupid’s single shot. I suspect you’ve already discovered on occasion that even when you think you have hit the bull’s-eye, you have instead missed the mark completely!
A single shot does not allow you to choose the best for yourself. And, you never, ever want to settle.If you want to have a better chance of finding the right guy, you have to begin with meeting more men. Not one more, not two more, but a lot more. The more men you meet, the more you increase your chances of finding the right one.Imagine attending a party where there are two hundred men in the room. Out of these two hundred guys, how many would you feel even remotely attracted to?
Maybe twenty? Out of this twenty, there might be only ten to whom you felt enough attraction to consider a first date. From this remaining ten, how many would you feel sufficient chemistry with to want to date again? And from these five last men standing, there may be only one with whom you could deeply connect. Many might say that even these figures are wildly optimistic. In which case, how long will it take to find your guy if you’re meeting only one new man each week?
Anywhere from four years to. You won’t live that long. In this scenario, you’re left relying on fate, which is like hoping to get rich playing the lottery. Time Out: Reality CheckI’m not a mind reader, but I do have quite a bit of experience hearing directly from women some common complaints about men that simply are not true. I want to share a collection of stubborn myths about guys and love that refuse to go away. These mad and bad beliefs do you no good and only hold you back:There are no good men out there ( All the men I meet are either gay, taken, or weird).Guys only want someone hotter and prettier than me.Guys don’t like women who approach them first.Guys only want a low-maintenance woman, not someone who will challenge them.Guys don’t want to commit, they only want casual flings and sex.Every single one of these is a myth.
Sadly, they are not only false, but they are dangerous to hold on to and often become excuses for all that is wrong in your love life.Most of us have had painful experiences in love. It’s one of life’s biggest, most unforgettable experiences. Love hurts, as the song says. But when we have been let down by someone, we have to be careful not to let that experience, however awful, become our sole reference point for future relationships.I’ll make you a deal. If you set aside all the myths and generalizations, if you set aside whatever bad experiences you may have had with men and refuse to allow them to color your judgment, I will reveal to you all the facets and secrets of the male mind, the good, the bad, and all the things he desires from the woman in his life.
The Philosophy of the FunnelNow that you are committed to expanding your options.